Love is the biggest emotion in one's life, the perfect antidote to true happiness. Even though many people believe they can do without love in their lives, I think they're just putting it on. Everyone wants to be loved and be in love. To be loved not only in a companionship way but an everything way, love from friends, family and love from a higher ground. This brings me to my story about how social media has changed the way we look at love and life in general. Throughout the years love has differed from generation to generation, as different social aspects have come into effect and persuaded us to believe that love should be understood in a certain way because of the current ideals and mindset at that exact time.
These days finding someone has changed drastically with apps coming into the social media sphere. People have adapted to using these apps as a form of meeting other individuals seeking similar things. Meaning they prefer using technology rather than going out to socialise and meet people the old fashion way. Is this the new normal though? I have discovered that many of these apps don't fully satisfy all the aspects needed to fall in love or to find that perfect ideology of a relationship, that we want. Many of these apps are all about sexual connection and not about meeting your ideal other half. Most people don't want to know who you are but what you can offer them in the bedroom, which to me is such as waste of time. I also believe a lot of this has to do with fear, fear of falling in love, fear of rejection and fear of hurt and pain.
We have changed as a society and don't listen to one another as we used to. An example is the movie Swiped on Netflix. It's about a group of college boys, who create a hook-up app called Jungle. The whole idea of this app is for men to meet women they want to sleep with but with no strings attached. Meaning you have to agree to conditions which are based on the app, such as not asking for either parties names and not asking to see them again. In the movie trailer you see a group of men, holding a meeting outside of campus shouting out things like "Do you want to pay for a movie? No! Buy them flowers? No! And even mentioning the C word, Commitment No!". I don't know what others want, I'm only going by my experience and what I want in a partner and what I had in my relationship which was called LOVE.
Why do we subject ourselves to apps when there are so many great places to meet people outside of the social media sphere? Is it because we have become so used to having everything given to us on a silver platter, in this case on a device that's been created to play with the mind and our emotions. A device which offers anything you need or want, it's like you already have a relationship right there in your hands, so why would you need the real deal in front of you to interact with? Social media has made it easy but also hard to connect with others like we used to. People have become so lazy because now they have more choice, meaning they have apps for everything, you want to eat, you want sex, you want a ride, it's all delivered via your device. Remember one thing though, the emotion of love cannot come through technology, or even touch you the way human interaction does. Sex indeed is part of life and creation but remember this, an orgasm can be bought and sold but love cannot, love comes when you least expect it, through it's own will and timing, not through sheer planning.
We as a society have lost our belief in LOVE. Women who I know are doubtful and question the idea of love because majority of men, who are left are not the perfect fit or just out for a good Hoo Ha! I on the other hand, know there is always someone for everyone and that love is experienced many times in a persons lifetime. Love is mysterious, it's blind, it hurts but it's so damn beautiful when we find it. Ladies and gents breathe and believe, as that one special part to your puzzle will come right when you least expect it.