A little birdy told me recently that the sixteen-year-old birthday parties of today have blown up like Ben Hur. The interesting fact to this though, is that it's not actually the teenager who wants such an extravagant, overblown occasion. Do you believe it's in fact their mother who is trying to compete with other mothers from the same school?
The mother organises the birthday to every detail. The outfit, venue, caterer and the list goes on and on. Doesn't the DJ usually put together music suitable that the teenager has picked and chosen? Well, you'd think so but nope! That's why I have stated in previous articles that it's the upbringing of the child that affects their overall behaviour in society. It's as though the event is not for their child but for themselves. Maybe because they couldn't have a birthday this big in their teenage years and want it for their child? It's as though they're living out their dreams and wishes through their child. The question then lies towards why they would want to compete against other mothers, who are also organising their teenagers birthday.
These mothers try to host the best birthday for their daughter/son, that will overtake all other birthdays that year. It's almost like a dance competition, where they have a dance off to see whose performance and presentation is better. So going back to music, a DJ that I won't name, told me a story about a sixteenth birthday he was booked in to work at. He told me that the mother was unbelievable and so difficult to work with because she was extremely particular about every piece of music, that was to be played on the night. This reminds me a little bit of the TV series Bridezillas but in this case it's more like Motherzillas LOL.
The DJ also told me that it's become so ridiculous that these events are no longer as sweet as they were portrayed to be back in the day. I believe that this also has a lot to do with social media and ideologies behind what events should be like and look like, due to the whole collective clique of the generation at present. Another theory or reality is being in a dysfunctional family. Where parents lavish their child with gifts and money to buy their affections. This is a way of hiding behind the problems that are happening in their family and denying the fact that there is a problem. A way for them to stray away from the underlining problems their family is facing and not being able to communicate their truth, so no real communication between families. Also, some parents these days think it's easy raising children. They give birth to them and just like that, they think that's their job done. Truth be told, addressing your problems with money doesn't work unfortunately. Children, especially teenagers need your interaction not just you throwing a dollar bill in their face. This is a crucial time for them, as they are starting their adult growth period.
Teenagers have become bored of their parents because their parents never have the time for them. Since social media came out years ago, parents found a new outlet to keep their children occupied. This though subsequently has created a separation between them and the closeness they once would have created has disappeared. This connection between families was taken away a while ago and that's why now when you see most families, it's always about whose children are doing better at what. Going back to my theory or maybe it isn't? It feels as though the kids are running the show but it's their parents who are letting them.
For this younger generation the world has turned into a place, where the children are conditioned to believe that they are entitled to everything and not to work for anything. That's where morals are ignored and manners are stepped on because they haven't been taught in the right way. I'm not saying all children in the younger generation are like this but there are many. By doing this their parents use it as part of their own agenda. A way for their lives to be more exciting and meaningful because remember the generation has changed and is going to keep evolving for years to come.