The same relationship status that we all think we're in but in fact it's completely the opposite. Speaking to many individuals from both sexes they all want the same thing, HONESTY! When you think you're in a love relationship and your partner or the person you are seeing at the time, tells you they love you but in reality, they are just playing with your emotions to keep you happy and then two weeks later they start seeing someone else.
This word in fact is not love but the infamous word we perceive to be. The word for longing or needing someone at that precise moment for us to feel closer to the idea of love. This word ladies and gentlemen is called LUST. To be in lust with someone is thinking you're in love with them because these are the first steps any relationship takes from the start. The initial moment you meet this person you are definitely attracted to them, sexually speaking. From that time and onwards if the relationship has started this way, so sex quite soon after, then you haven't quite experienced who they are and vice versa. The whole relationship is based around the lusting for each other and not the loving of each other.
Think about it this way, an older woman dating a younger man. Ok I have heard of these relationships working out and I'm not critising them. These two generations have a few things in common. One being that a woman's libido is higher as she gets older and a male's libido is higher when they are younger, so it's completely the opposite but fits well with what they both want...SEX. The next thing both have in common is they have a fantasy of having sexual relations with each other. They want to live out the fantasy and believe in the experience and excitement behind the whole novelty of getting down and dirty with someone who is older or younger. By doing this they're actually weighing out their options. So, trying something new to make life a little more interesting and exciting.
Why do you think so many of us get confused with the word though? A male's perspective is so different to a woman's because both react differently. A male uses logic more than emotion but a woman uses emotion most of the time in her life. It's because women were always generalised as maternal creatures of habit, well have the tables turned. The new generation has taught us dinosaurs a few things and these are tips that we had forgotten along the way. The games we used to play are still generally being used in relationships but now in a way where they don't look as obvious as we once made them.
What if though the other person reciprocates saying I love you? Do they really mean it? Even though it's only been a month or so? I believe in chemistry and attraction and having a million things in common. Sometimes, I believe these things bring out emotions that were there from the start but you weren't comfortable enough at the time to say anything. As they say love is a four-letter word but the hidden meaning is that love is something that shouldn't be spoken about. Maybe that's one of the reasons people are so scared to talk about it or say it? How many times has someone said they love you before you have and then you’re like, should I say it back? Or when you want to say it before them and you ask yourself s#*t is it too early? I know you all have been in a similar situation C’MON. The reason for this is that four letter words have always be represented as profane words. Some people think that love should be included in the four-letter word group but I disagree.
Love is not profane; people think it is because they are scared of it and what it will do to them. To experience it is beautiful. Love is a fear for some and not allowing yourself to love according to me is a crime. To open up your heart is one thing but definitely not undesirable. People that come into our lives are lessons, they teach us how to feel lust, pain, loss, hate and envy. These are all part of the experience and life lesson. Each one will make you ask yourself what did I learn? What can I do differently next time and what is it within me that I want from a relationship? People who have experienced love and hurt know what I'm talking about but are not willing to give up on it just because they run the risk of feeling the same wonderful, hurtful, satisfying emotion.
To end this whole lust/love philosophy, I want you in your own way to describe what each letter in the word love stands for. Please see below a beautiful example taken from a man called Bill McMonagle. I wouldn't describe it any other way, beautiful, simple and so on point.
L - is for longing to be near a special person.
O - is only this person can fill your needs and desires.
V - is for the very soft touch that is felt when you embrace.
E - is for the essence of her in every move or thought.
Simply said I love you
Written by Bill McMonagle. Use it wisely.
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